So this is a double-barreled question and both parts are equally important. What do your friends dream of accomplishing, or trying, or having? You need to know these things. But also, we all have roadblocks (real or perceived) that prevent us from living out our dreams. You need to know these things as well (about your friends AND about yourself).

Source: The question bank from the 1997 landmark study out of SUNY Stony Brook on Interpersonal Closeness (famously discussed in 2015 in the wildly viral New York Times article: “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This” )

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