This is a question to ask your friends and family. But instead of revealing something about them, the question is designed to teach you something about yourself. I came across this one when working with a life coach in late 2010. In the middle of our meeting, I had to call 5 people in my life right at that moment and ask them, “What shows up when I do? What qualities do I add to a room when I walk in?” Everyday life had never before (and hasn’t since) given me the opportunity to just point-blank ask that of friends and family. The calls lasted no more than 2 minutes each (and I said I’d call back soon for a real conversation) but the answers were intriguing and affirming and have truly stuck with me. When two of my best friends echoed, on separate calls, that I brought consistency of character into a room (meaning that the given crowd or environment didn’t change how I acted/spoke/joked), I took that to heart and doubled down on it. Ever since, I’ve tried very intentionally to bring that quality with me. Give this one a try! It’s a random question for sure… But you can say that you’re doing an internet experiment if that helps! I promise the answers are worth it.

Source: Norah, the life coach I worked with in 2010

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